new trend? new chapter? new person?

A popular characteristic of the Black woman in modern history is that when going through something traumatic or experiencing a change (i.e. horrible break up/divorce, new phase in life, change in career path/goals), a woman's self image is definitely something that is more highlighted during this hard time. Cutting hair or obtaining a 'doo' that seems like something a woman would never do always comes to mind first.

Since I was younger, I have always had short hair, and dreamed of natural long hair. BUT one thing that I do agree with, is that women who buzz-cut their hair or get it cut short to me exemplifies confidence.

A feature on a woman that the media portrays as what "men like" is long hair...something that they can run their fingers through, play with, 'pull' when they are doing the deed. For women who either go completely bald or get a buzz cut, to me, shows that they want their inner beauty to be taken more seriously, or the fact, have this attitude that expresses "I am just that sexy of a bitch/fly of a chick, regardless if I have hair or not, I am still sexy.

Even FOXXY Megan Fox took the ride....

A lot of men do not like and/or want to partake in the sudden alternate route that women are taking with their image. Whether it is the short hair cut, the buzzed cut or the bald look, something about this renewed fashion statement is not settling well with the guys.

Shad Moss, aka "Lil Bow Wow"
posted this after
pics of Solange Knowles new
look flooded the internet:


He 'claims' that he wasn't specifically talking about Solange, and that she is his 'sis' and would NEVER talk about her like that, but when he posted the above comment, the timing was kind of shady.

I asked a female friend the other day if she liked Solange's look with her hair, and she said 'no.' We then compared her look to Amber Rose, and she admitted that she liked Amber Rose's cut and style, just because the cut is closer to her head, while Solange's sort of resembles a 'boy fade,' and that she needs a relaxer (Let me tell you something, the Black woman's opinion is probably the media's worse critic, because we are brutally honest and are not afraid to hold back true opinions).

Personally, I love Solange's new look. It's chic, simple, rustic, 70's based and of course, really showcases her facial structure and displays how truly gorgeous Solange Knowles is.

Solange doesn't need the glitz and the glam that shadows her sister, daily. As a matter of fact, with this hair cut, she doesn't get compared or classified with Beyonce' at all, and I adore her for it.

SO when it comes to taking chances, being adventurous and expressing one's true self, I admire those who take this step. To those out there who are just following a trend and want to be like Amber Rose or Rihanna, I pity you. Nine times out of ten, there are real life situations that bring these women to take dramatic measures like these and not succomb to the media's generalizations or "what people expect." The buzz-balding effect shows nothing more than pure confidence.

When I say "real life situatuons," traumatic times, etc., I know people are thinking "what can force a woman to cut her hair off?" Isn't that borderline crazy? How can someone just alter themselves like that just because of a bad day?

I believe that their is more to life than the outside and what people think about other people. What a person goes through on the inside is sometimes virtually impossible to put words and have people understand. For example, Tia Mowry in "The Game" plays Melanie Barnette, a beautiful young woman who happens to be intelligent as well, engaged to an NFL line backer. All at the same time, she is stuggling with medical school; dating someone who is always on the road, leaving her life back at home for this man, living with him, and finds out that he is cheating on her. That's a lot to take in for one woman to not react in an absolute crazy manner (i.e. bust the windows out his car, sleep with his friend, go bananas). She made this man her life.

She ended up cutting her hair, a new style, to throw away a chapter in her life that she needs to get pass. To wake up every morning and look in the mirror and see something different, to reassure her change is for the better, this time. Even when her friends realized that she was pro-short hair, one of her girls mentioned that her "long hair was the only thing going for her."

Although this show is completely fabricated, their are women out there who are going through troubling times similar to Melanie's. Cheating boyfriend, the fear of not achieving success hell, even trouble losing weight.

I decided to post on my twitter for the guys to let me know what they think regarding short cuts/bald/shaved cuts, and the first response I recieved:

GQ50@ThePinkDreamer It looks bad period. Fades on girls look bad.
(I encourage those to follow this guy, then you will probably see why he doesn't like the trend)

(to be continued)